Two-Story Houses and Growth
When I was a young child I wanted to live in a two-story house more than anything.

Maybe it was because I grew up relatively poor and it seemed like people on TV, like the Brady's or the Bradford's, were this ideal family and the two-story house was just this pinnacle of finally having the good life.


You know - money, a functional family without alcoholism and co-dependency, enough food, and a family that truly cared for each other. And let's be honest, a housekeeper like Alice on the Brady Bunch as a bonus family member wouldn't hurt.

It's funny the things we pick as an ideal in our youth and how those change as we grow older and more wise.

I've lived in a couple of two-story houses since my childhood. The reality is, it didn't change a thing in my life. Because those things are just that...things.

I've accomplished a lot in my life. Most of it, on my own.

I'm a first-generation college graduate and hold an advanced degree. Both of which I earned while raising two young children - on my own. Sure, I had super supportive friends, but when push came to shove, I did it by myself, because I was the only one there at 2 am while one of my children was sick.

I singlehandedly raised my children to be independent and to think for themselves.  And they grew up to do just that. And they are both amazing individuals who I'm so proud of. We didn't always have money, in fact, we rarely had money, but we were together and we survived and succeeded.

I worked hard after I graduated and moved up in my career. Not the accounting career I envisioned, because my kids came first, but one I'm good at. I've finally reached the level I've been striving for - a Director-level position. To get there, I had to leave all I knew, move to a new state, and start over.

But that is what I do. I reimagine my life and I make the change. I did it when I got divorced, I did it when I moved to go to school, I did it again when I moved for a new job.

And what I've learned as I've gotten older, and hopefully wiser, is that ideals and dreams change, and we can change with them, or we can get stuck in what we think is ideal, without ever doing anything about it.

I'm back in a two-story house right now. It's a rental, because at this point I can't yet afford to buy again, but that's OK. It's just a step on my road to the next thing. But after spending 30 minutes vacuuming the stairs this morning I do still want a housekeeper!  And actually,I never want another two-story house again, ifI can help i. 😂

So, what are your dreams from childhood?  Are they different now that you are an adult?  It doesn't matter, either way, as long as you keep growing. 

And if you ever want to come vacuum my stairs, just let me know! 🤣


2 Comments

  1. I always wanted to be an actress from the time I was about 9 yo.
    I studied drama and acting when I was in Jr High and High school, and won district and went to regionals, but I didn't go onto to state.
    I needed 3 superiors to move onto state, but unfortunately I recvd 2 superiors and 1 excellent.
    I always thought I would one day return to acting and further my desires, however never did.
    Having a family and spending my time with them was and has been better than any acting job I may have had.
    Now that I'm an empty nester, I may just do some research and look back into acting.
    Isnt it funny how we sometimes find ourselves looking back wondering and thinking where we would be now if things in our life was different growing up!
  2. Echo Alexzander  10/04/2020 01:26 PM Central
    I think 2020 has been a great reminder for all of us to reflect on what really matters as you have so eloquently done here. Glad you have clean stairs and can take such pride as you reflect on all that you have accomplished. Well done indeed!

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